As women and men of the body of Christ, we all know the power of our confession. Proverbs 18:21 tells us that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue…”. However, at times it so easy to allow our emotions or our current situation to control what comes out of our mouth.
For instance, in the early stages of my divorce, I was so scared and overwhelmed about becoming a single mother. I was so concerned that my children would suffer because of the decision that I made to walk away. I was literally in a state of panic. How in the world was I going to handle everything? I had already begun confessing my stress, my failure, and my struggle far before I even had an issue. It was an additional mental challenge that I created for myself. The title of a Single Mother was all that I could focus on. The stigma that went along with the title consumed my every thought and actions. Suddenly the statistics of being a single, black mother to young black men, became the confession that I continued to speak over myself. I began to let my false, uninformed beliefs that life will be hard because I am a single mom become my reality.
While waiting in the school pick-up line one afternoon; I was talking to one of my girlfriends, and I was just ranting and venting about what I had to do, what the boys needed, and so on. She listened to me go on and on like a good, supportive friend. Then finally she had enough - she said “Erica, you do not have to receive that title (Single Mother) nor do you have to live in that struggle. You have to look at it like this you are not a single mother, but a mother that is single. Huh? Is that not the same thing? What is the difference between a Single Mother and a Mother who is single? It took me a minute, but then I finally got it. I had allowed myself to become consumed with the title of single mother and the connotation that came with it. I began making false statements about my situations because of my emotional attachment to a title that I never had to receive. Bishop made a profound statement one day during service. He said that “too many people live in the level of their predicament when God wants you to live in the level of their praise.”
Sure, I could live by the statistics society set up against me. It would be easy to live a mediocre life depending on myself instead of God to provide. I could continue to let a negative mindset and a ignorant confession control my life. It was up to me what and how I decided to view myself. It was up to me to say, yes this may suck right now, and at times it may get hard. However, that shouldn't, couldn’t, wouldn’t change my praise. I cannot allow my marital status to change my confession of life, prosperity, and favor over my family. I had to choose to see how blessed I was to have a family that stood by me and held my hand all the way through. I had to recognize the fact that I had not missed a beat since the moment I walked out the door. The fact that my kids are still in the same private school as they were before. The fact that I drive a better car. The fact that I am debt free. The fact that I was able to walk away and the fact that I am happier than ever.
It was up to me what I would confess over my life and the life of my children. See, the devil does not want you to know the power of the tongue. The Bible says that you can control your world by your tongue… Whatever you claim – is what it will be. So, decide today….What does that mouth do? What will you confess? Life or Death?
“Lift your head little higher, spread the love like fire, Hope will fall like rain when you speak life with the words you say.” – Toby Mac