How many of you guys own a pair of Skinny Jeans? I think we all have about a hundred pairs in our closet, drawers, or even on our floor. Well when the Skinny Jean initially came out about a decade ago, I had just given birth to my first child. And as you know with pregnancy I of course gained a few extra pounds (Okay I’m lying, I gained a whole person, LOL!). I was normally the skinny girl but I had become the thick girl. And although I loved the look of the Skinny Jean, I had already told myself “Now Erica, you can’t wear that, you’re too big. Hence the name Skinny Jeans – they are for skinny girls and you my dear are definitely fat.” I went through two long seasons without purchasing a single pair of Skinny Jeans. I would see everyone wearing them in all shapes and sizes, looking cute and trendy. However, I had already convinced myself that I couldn’t wear them.
One day my personal shopper (My Mommy) purchased me some new clothes and one of the items she purchased were a pair of Skinny Jeans. Like all mothers, she made me try everything on so she could see how it fit. Imagine me, grown me – sitting in the bathroom like GREAT!, now I’m forced to face my rejection. I had to try on those awful, only for skinny people, Old Navy Skinny Jeans, And….. they were perfect. They fit me better than any jeans I had ever worn and they actually made me look smaller. I felt rejected by the skinny jean trend since the moment I saw them in People Style Watch. And for what? Nobody said thick girls couldn’t wear Skinny Jeans; the stores didn’t just sell a size 2 or 4. And the jean never doubted that I would look good in them, it was all me. The jeans hadn’t rejected me – I had rejected myself.
I know you may say how does this even apply to me? A lot of times we think that we are being rejected by others, desires, or potential accomplishments – but it’s just you rejecting yourself. Just like in John 4, the Bible speaks of the Woman at the Well. She had already given herself thousands of reasons of why Jesus wouldn’t want her to serve Him or better yet, want to help her. He just couldn’t want to help this sinner. Did He not know her past? Or even her present situation? She had rejected His love before He had even spoken. We create a hundred and one reasons why someone won’t like us because of what we don’t have. Or why something wouldn’t work out because it’s not something that we are used to. And just like that a seed of rejection is planted. And as years go by different situations and circumstance continue to water that seed. Now it’s grown from rejection to resentment because you missed out on a chance to make that new friend or travel the world, even wear the newest fashion trend because of the fear of being rejected. However, the truth is your just rejecting yourself.
I want to challenge you to take the time today to really think about where you could be or should be if you would stop rejecting yourself and understand that you are beautifully and wonderfully made. And you can do all things through Christ. So walk in the God confidence that we all have received through the Holy Spirit. Don’t wait till you’re older and look back and say I wish I would have done this or tried that. Get up now put on your big girl, Skinny Jeans and take that step. Choose to live the life that God has purposed for you, and live your best life in Christ.