Like many people, I love reading little quotes and looking at the different memes on Instagram. There is one in particular that has been popping up in my feed a lot lately “Wake up, Pray up, Crown up”. Yes, it sounds cute and sassy but there is so much power behind that one quote, more then you may even know. One may say I wake up, pray up and dress up in the Armor of the Lord. And that’s true, you should. As daughters of the Most High King, we should do it all, wakeup, pray up, dress up and CROWN UP!
However, before I get into all of that, let me go back to the reason why I am writing this post today. After being with my Ex 10 years, married to him for 8 ½ years of the relationship, at the age of 30 I decided to get a divorce (Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t just get a divorce because I felt like it or for just any type of reason. There was a cause for separation, but I’ll save that for another post). After taking some time to heal, I of course got back on the dating scene. It wasn’t easy at the beginning because I had never really dated as an adult, and I wanted to be careful, not just for me but because I also have two children to think about as well. It was a bit uncomfortable at first but my failed relationship and past hurt didn’t change my view on love and I knew that one day I wanted to be married again and I knew that God would give me the desires of my heart. I was ready – I understood who I was in Christ and what I now expected out of a mate.
But after being on the dating scene for a while, I began to question it. l felt like this just may not happen for me again. I thought to myself – I’m still young, saved, kind of cute, fun, and relatable….basically I think I’m a good catch. But I just wasn’t having any real success in the relationship department. I would lie in my bed wondering if I would ever get the chance to experience true love, unconditional love, that one and only God kind of love. Of course I could settle for any Tom, Dick or Harry, but I knew I deserved more. And I wanted to receive all of God’s promises for my life – in every area of my life. In Luke 1:45 it says “Blessed is she who believes what the Lord promises.” And I definitely do believe in His promises, so I wasn’t going to waste what God had promised me on someone who didn’t value me, cherish me and more importantly deserve me. I had come too far to turn back now.
Yes, being single isn’t easy especially when everyone around you seems to be so in love. But once you recognize that you are a queen and really understand your value and your purpose, you won’t accept anything less than what God had promised you. You won’t let these clowns tarnish your crown with the lack of commitment, honesty, or loyalty. If he first off doesn’t know God or love God he won’t know how to love you. Second, if he doesn’t respect you enough to treat you the way you are supposed to be treated, then ladies he is not the one. You don’t have to wait for God to send down a sign from Heaven. He has already given you discernment to know if this person is His best for your life. So stop ignoring it!
There’s a post by Real Talk Kim that I was tagged in the other day and it says: “Eventually, one of two things will happen; he will realize you’re worth it or you’ll realize that he isn’t.” That’s why it’s so important to know who you are in Christ, because a clown will de-value who you are. By not respecting the crown that God has placed on you. Just like the quote said above wake up knowing that God’s promises are true for you. Stay prayed up so that you will have discernment to receive what God has prepared for you. And always Crown up, because once you began to realize that you are royalty you will not accept the antics of a clown. You will only allow yourself to be in the company of a man whose crown matches your crown.
“One day you’ll wake up and you’ll be so glad you didn’t settle for just anything, and you chose to wait on God’s plan.” –Quiet Women Co. So ladies always remember CROWNS BEFORE CLOWNS!